Here is how a typical conversation with my husband goes:
Him: “Do you think we should put the good desktop computer in the boys room?”
Me: “No. Absolutely not. They already spend too much time on their ancient computer where they can hardly do anything.”Of course, we have a dispute about what was said. His version included me saying “Yes, dear.”
My boys are 4 and 6 and, I feel, too young to have 24/7 access to the computer (other than the ancient, painfully slow computer they had before). My 6 year old is about a month away from being smarter than I am and I’m sure he’ll be able to deal with those pesky parental controls by the time he’s 7. His cousin could take a computer apart and put it back together by the time she was in the 6th grade.
So of course on Friday evening I come home to find the computer set up in my boys’ room.
I couldn’t argue much because the husband did this while I was out to dinner, the second night in a row I stayed out past 10, and he watched the kids. I left the arguing to the next day.
I normally don’t worry too much about Internet security so when Yahoo! Motherboard chose the topic for its bloggers, I didn’t think I would have anything to talk about. Well, thanks to the husband, now I do.
It’s not that I’m consumed with fears that someone trolling on the internet will find my kids and want to chat. I’m more worried about what they will consume while I’m trying to get a little work done. They love to watch videos. I want them to play educational games with Sid the Science Kid on PBS Kids, but instead they “found” (which means my husband showed them) the Lego site and now they watch videos on Lego Star Wars and Batman.
These are not horrible for kids (in fact, they are awesome), but I don’t think it’s good for the 4-year-old to see so much violence even if it’s acted out by Legos. They play Lego Star Wars and Batman on the Wii and now Xbox (which, for full disclosure, was given to me last week by Xbox).
Back to the husband. I mentioned to him that I thought the 4-year-old was being exposed to too much violence. I told him that I felt strongly that the games and videos were having a negative effect on our younger son. Sports games are fine, but no more Lego games until they’re older.
“Okay,” he said. Saturday he took them out to buy some games for the new Xbox. Of course, they came back with a Spiderman game (and Toy Story 3). I wish I had a parental control for my husband.
3 Replies to “A Little More Conversation, A Little Less Action”
I think you're on to something with your idea about a parental control for husbands…And it is true, my itty bitty kids are so tech savvy that they probably could figure out far more on the computer than me. It's important that we continue to parent them as much online as offline for now, so that they grow up to be smart, responsible kids in the virtual world too!
I agree that the parental controls can't be trusted to parent our children online. I'm curious: ask your husband if he'd be this liberal if they were girls.
I'm sitting in my office where I wish all my books were displayed and perhaps some pictures, but instead Star Wars Lego warships and other all things Starwars are gracing my shelves. Maybe that's why some women count men as an additional child. 🙂
But like my husband says, I don't drink, I don't smoke..leave me my toys. hahaha Got to love compromise im a marriage.